Triangular Dimension of Love

The word “love” can refer both to an acute passionate emotion, lasting for minutes, hours, or days as well as to a lasting sentiment, enduring for years through many ups and downs. The phrase “in love” often refers to the sentiment while “Passion” describes the emotion. Nevertheless, both are meaningless without “Commitment” put in place, the governance of  such emotions through the sentiment of life with a very specific significant other. They are often called as the triangular of love, a very basic recipe for love.

Intimacy shares connection, defines bond, and creates attachment. It gives a sensation for both parties who are in love, a really pleasurable one. It starts with a simple touch then ripples beyond the physical stimulation. Break the barrier of the emotional bulwark, makes us to be fully seen by somebody, then and be loved anyhow. A feeling like no other, a human offering that can border on miraculous, a love in short. However, as an embodiment of love; intimacy shares its darkest secret. It triggers a tension between closeness and separation, conceive the fundamental idea of jealousy. A heart-burning sensation which giving birth into possessiveness. How can a supposed-to-be the greatest gift of a human-kind ended up as the worst allegiance of trust.

Limerence has been defined as an involuntary interpersonal state that involves intrusive, obsessive, and compulsive thoughts, feelings, and behaviors that are contingent on perceived emotional reciprocation from the object of interest. Being infatuated in love generates passion, from passion, it grows into intensity. As an ardent of joy, passion may accompany love, and love may burn passionately. The perpetual passion might sound imaginary, since it is depicted as a fire, it can ebb after a couple of years if you don’t feed it with time spent together and a desire to give your partner your best effort. As desperate as it sounds, Is it supposed to be a one-sided battle that nobody could be the winner and emptiness could be the last feeling standing? How about if we try to ignite the fairy-tale-kind of passion, an eternity flame to lead our relationship into its happily-ever-after scenario in a timely fashion.

Now the reality bat is finally hit the ground, I mentioned about how important intimacy and passion for a relationship to be associated with fulfillment and ecstasy. No doubt that they are the right ingredient for the right love to be bloomed perfectly, but they should be maintained with the right dosage that gradually increased over time and not the otherwise. Mainstream love often misunderstood this by being vigorously “all-in” from the beginning, then diminished quickly afterward, the classic salience pattern of not-destined-to-survive-kind-of-love. Therefore, neither intimacy nor passion could give a positive connotation when they rule your life and drive your relationship. If love isn’t based exclusively on passion and intimacy, what else should we be focusing on? What can sustain a relationship through the years?

The answer is Commitment. Commitment is a selfless love that seems unconditional no matter what happens, there will always be dedication and loyalty. The kind of emotion that supersedes all passion and intimacy. It glues people together with a deeper level of mutual understanding. Technically, it provides us with a higher state of love. To love, or not to… That’s the question yet deemed an honest answer. Are you ready to be in love?

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